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CONFLICTING PATTERN

Different parts of you are trying to protect you — at the same time. 

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What this means

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Inside you, there isn't just one clear voice. There are multiple parts, each with their own agenda, each trying to help you in different ways. They all love you, and they all think they have your best interest at heart, but they conflict with one another. And some of their ideas are unhelpful to you. 

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So instead of feeling clear, grounded, and decisive — you feel:

• Pulled in different directions

• Stuck between action and inaction

• Like you know what you want... but can't fully move toward it

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It sounds like: 'Part of me really wants this — but another part won't let me.'

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What this feels like in your body

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This isn't just mental — it's a stop-start, push-pull experience.

• Starting something, then losing momentum

• A surge of energy followed by hesitation or shutdown

• Tension in the chest or gut when making decisions

• Feeling both activated and held back simultaneously

• A sense of not being fully 'in' yourself

• Holding different emotions simultaneously

Instead of a steady flow, your energy feels interrupted, negotiated, or conflicted.

How this pattern protects you

Your system is being led by protector parts (an IFS framework concept):

• A part that pushes you forward — achieve, act, go

• A part that pulls you back — avoid, protect, don't risk

• A part that critiques or monitors

• A part that numbs or distracts

• What other parts do you notice?

Sometimes these parts are in conflict with each other — one wants X, another resists it.

And when that happens, your Self energy — the calm, grounded, clear, curious part — gets crowded out.

So instead of leading your life from a centered place, you're being led by whichever part is loudest.

Where it blocks joy

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When your system is in constant internal negotiation:

• You lose clarity

• You lose momentum

• You lose trust in yourself

And even when things are going well, part of you holds back, questions it, or interrupts the experience.

Joy requires being fully connected to and aware of your SELF energy. But when parts are taking over, you don't always feel settled enough to access it.

The quiet feeling underneath: 'Why can't I just get out of my own way?'

Your first shift

We're not trying to get rid of these parts. We're helping you step into Self — the part of you that is calm, curious, clear, and not reactive.

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Step one: Notice, don't merge.

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Instead of 'I don't want to do this' — try 'A part of me doesn't want to do this.' That small shift creates space.

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Step two: Get curious. Ask the resistant part: What are you trying to protect me from? Not to fix it — just to understand.

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Step three: Slow the system down. When parts are activated, bring in breath, grounding, awareness of your body. This helps Self energy come back online.

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A reframe to hold

You're not inconsistent or broken. You're made up of parts that learned to protect you in different ways. You can learn to lead them — rather than be led by them.

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What Comes Next

Awareness is not resolution. Knowing your pattern is the beginning — not the work itself.

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The Badass Joy Framework is designed to reach the embodied, somatic layer where these patterns actually live. Not just the thoughts about them. The felt experience of them in the body. That is where the real shift begins.

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Hi! I’m Joanna, and I’m a Certified Feminine Embodiment Coach and Dietitian. I can support you to shift these patterns, get to know the parts of yourself that need welcoming, and move toward a Joy Mindset and inner joy and confidence.

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Reach out today for a free discovery call to learn more about my approach and how I can best support you to get out of your head and fully into your badass life.